Arranging a Funeral at St James’ Church, Exeter
When someone we love dies, life can feel upended. Whether the death followed a long illness or came without warning, grief brings practical questions at a time when clear thinking is hard. The notes below gather key guidance and details that apply to funerals at St James'. These notes explain your options and where to find extra help. Keep it handy when you first speak to the funeral director.
1. Who can contact the parish priest?
Anyone may ask for the priest’s help; you do not need to belong to the congregation. St James’ clergy are available during a final illness and after a death. Please contact the Parish Office – office@stjamesexeter.org / 01392 420 407.
2. First steps after a death.
- Contact a funeral director.
- The director checks the priest’s diary and books the church or crematorium.
- The priest then phones you, visits, listens to your memories and plans the service with you.
3. What happens at St James’?
- Venue – The funeral can take place in church. The committal (final farewell) may follow immediately or later at a local crematorium.
- Requiem (optional) – The clergy can celebrate a Funeral Requiem, a Communion service for the person who has died.
- Memorial service – A memorial or thanksgiving service for the life of the deceased is also an alternative. The funeral itself can take place at a crematorium or a cemetery before the thanksgiving service.
- Personal touches – Together you choose readings, music and prayers that reflect the life being honoured. An organist is available, and the church hall next door may be available for hired for a reception; the parish office handles hall bookings.
- If people cannot attend – Ask about a recording of the service (this depends on volunteer availability).
- Interment of ashes – St James’ offers a Garden of Remembrance for the interment of your loved one's ashes if you wish.
4. Costs
The Church of England sets a national fee for the service. Extra fixed charges apply if there is an organist. Your funeral director usually pays these on your behalf. There is no fee for the priest’s ministry.
5. Staying in touch
- Parish Office (enquiries & hall hire) – office@stjamesexeter.org / 01392 420 407
You can ring the priest at any stage — during treatment, hospice care or after a death—if you would welcome prayer or a visit. To contact the priest, please call the parish Office.
6. Further help
For practical and pastoral guidance visit the Church of England website: churchofenglandfunerals.org.
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